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The Top 9 Reasons to Work with Me and Top 9 Why You Shouldn't for Couples Therapy

Why Work with Me

1. Humility: I approach every partnership, marriage, and relationship with humility, understanding that every relationship deserves individualized care.

2. Curiosity: I have a curious nature, and I ask questions that help me identify relationship issues and create workable solutions in couples therapy.

3. Empathy: I have a deep empathy for everyone in the family system, which enables me to understand their situations, points of view, and feelings in relationship counseling without passing judgment.

4. Humor: My sense of humor helps couples in marriage counseling feel comfortable and at ease by fostering a laid-back and enjoyable environment.

5. Deep Listening: My top aim in couples counseling is to create a safe space where couples feel heard, understood, and respected.

6. Evidence-Based Methods: I use therapeutic strategies and techniques that are supported by empirical research, such as John Gottman's Gottman Method and Sue Johnson's Emotional Focused Therapy, which have been proven to be effective for couples in couples therapy.

7. Communication Skills: In premarital therapy, I help couples strengthen their communication skills so they may better understand and appreciate one another.

8. Guidance: In marriage counseling, I provide couples with guidance and encouragement as they work to rebuild their trust and connection.

9. Resources: In relationship counseling, I give couples the tools and resources they need to maintain a contented and meaningful relationship outside of therapy sessions.

Why not to work with Me

1. Shared Responsibility: If you cannot admit your participation in the destructive pattern in your relationship in couples therapy, I may not be the right couples counselor or marriage counselor for you. This is because I think that both people contribute to relationship dynamics.

2. Goal-Oriented: Counseling with me might not be helpful if you and your spouse are unsure of where you want to go as a couple in marriage therapy because my approach is goal-oriented and focused on helping couples establish a common vision for their future.

3. Secrets: I might not be the right counselor for you if you want to share secrets with me but not with your partner during couples therapy.

4. Needs: I think that expressing one's wants and being able to recognize them is crucial to a successful relationship; therefore, couples counseling or premarital counseling with me might not be helpful if you can't admit that you have unfulfilled needs in the relationship.

5. Accountability: If one or both parties refuse to take responsibility for their parts in the relationship's issues during relationship counseling, progress may be hampered.

6. Abuse: I would suggest obtaining a skilled professional's help in that circumstance in couples therapy since there are better counselors in town who are better trained in assisting couples with abuse or violence in the relationship.

7. The Past: If one or both spouses refuse to discuss their personal history and how they might effect their current interactions in marriage counseling, progress may be hampered.

8. Compromise: If one or both partners are hesitant to give in or cooperate to find solutions in couples counseling, progress could be difficult.

9. Reluctance to Try New Approaches: Because I routinely teach couples new communication and problem-solving techniques in couples counseling, counseling with me may only be successful if you are willing to try new techniques of reacting to your partner.


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