RECONNECT
You are succeeding at everything except feeling close to each other. RECONNECT is a 12-session couples therapy program for high-achieving partners who are ready to bring the same standard to their relationship that they bring to everything else.
Free. 20 minutes. No pressure. Just a conversation.
RECONNECT: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Counseling in Golden, Colorado
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Built on the work of Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. John Gottman, and Esther Perel.
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Created and led by Dr. John O'Malley, PhD, LPC, NCC.
Who RECONNECT Is for
This program was built for one specific kind of couple.
You are both high performers. You built something real together, a family, a home, careers you are proud of, a life that from the outside looks like it is working. And from the inside, something has quietly gone missing. The conversations have gotten shorter. The warmth has gotten harder to find. You are not fighting every day, but you are not really meeting each other either. You keep thinking it will get better on its own once this quarter ends, once the kids are older, once things slow down. It has not gotten better. And you are both too smart to keep pretending it will.
RECONNECT is for couples who are ready to bring the same standard to their relationship that they bring to everything else they care about. It is not a last resort. It is not a crisis intervention. It is the decision to stop waiting and start doing the work with someone who knows exactly what they are doing.
The cycle is the enemy. Not each other.
A NOTE FROM DR. O'MALLEY
The two of you are not broken. You are exhausted from carrying something you were never taught how to put down.
Most of the couples I work with arrive in my office having already tried. They have read the books. They have done the weekend retreat. They have had the hard conversation in the kitchen at midnight more than once. They are not lazy, and they are not avoidant. They are smart, accomplished people who keep applying the tools that work everywhere else in their lives, only to watch them fail in the one place that matters most. That is not a character flaw. That is a sign that the problem is not the two of you. It is the cycle the two of you keep getting pulled into without seeing it.
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There is a metaphor I use in almost every first session. When there is a squirrel loose in your house, it is not the squirrel that is the problem. The problem is that the two of you are running in circles trying to catch it while blaming each other for letting it in. The squirrel is the cycle. And the thing most couples therapy gets wrong is that it keeps trying to make you chase the squirrel better together.
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My work is different. I help you both step back, see the cycle for what it is, and stop treating each other like the thing to fight. I track both of you at once. I name what is happening in the room in real time. I do not take sides, and I do not let either of you disappear in the conversation. That is the work. And when couples do it with me, something shifts that does not unshift when the program ends.
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RECONNECT is the most complete thing I know how to offer. Twelve sessions. The most important couples therapy and intimacy books of the last twenty years, one copy for each of you. Between-session support when you need it. Measure at the start, middle, and end so we can see the actual change, not just feel it. A program you will describe to your friends at dinner and mean it.
If any of that lands, the next step is a twenty-minute phone call with me. No pressure, no pitch. I will ask you what is happening, and you will ask me anything you want. At the end, we will both know if this is the right fit.
John O'Malley, PhD, LPC,
Founder, RECONNECT
THE STRUCTURE
HOW RECONNECT WORKS
Twelve sessions. Three stages. One arc that actually moves.
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SEEING
THE CYCLE
We start with the two of you in the room together. Session one is where I meet you both, hear the story you share, and begin to see the shape of what is happening between you. Then sessions two and three are individual. I meet with each of you on your own, one session each, so I can hear what is hardest to say in front of your partner and so each of you feels fully met before the deeper work begins. Session four brings the two of you back together, and from there forward, every session is the three of us in the room. By the end of stage one, you stop fighting each other and start fighting the pattern together. This is where most couples feel the first real exhale.
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CHANGING THE CYCLE
Sessions five through nine are the working middle of the program. By now I know each of you on your own and I know the cycle you keep getting pulled into. This is where the real change happens. The old patterns get interrupted in the moment they show up, and you start to build new ways of reaching for each other that actually land. The work is slower and quieter here, and it is also where the deepest shifts take place. Couples often tell me this is the stretch where they stopped bracing for the next argument and started looking forward to the next session.
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LIVING IT FORWARD
The final sessions consolidate what you have built and prepare you to carry it on your own. Session twelve is a formal completion. We look at the data of your progress together, you each speak to one another about what changed, and you leave with a written record of the work. Couples remember session twelve. It is the moment the program becomes something that happened to them, not something they did.
Throughout the program, we measure. At the start, the middle, and the end, you each complete a brief assessment through Blueprint Health. The data is private to the three of us, and it shows us in plain terms whether the work is moving. You will know if it is working. So will I. That is not how most couples therapy is done. It is how this one is.
HOW I WORK
YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS MY CLIENT.
I see each of you as a full person with your own inner world, your own story, and your own way of moving through the room. And I see the relationship the two of you built together as the thing I am here to help. That is who I am working for. Not one of you against the other. Not the two of you as one unit. The relationship itself, with both of you fully in it.
FOR EACH OF YOU
YOUR OWN COPIES. YOUR OWN VOICE.
Every couple in RECONNECT receives two copies of every book in the program. One for each of you. Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight, Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity, and John Gottman's The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. You read on your own terms, you mark them up however you want, and you bring what you find back into the room. The reading is not homework. It is how each of you starts to develop your own language for what is happening between you, so that when we meet, you are not waiting on me to give you the words. You already have them.
FOR THE RELATIONSHIP
REAL SUPPORT BETWEEN SESSIONS.
The work does not stop when you leave my office. Through your secure client portal, you can reach me between sessions when something comes up that you do not want to wait a week to bring in. I respond within one business day, Monday through Friday, up to twice a week. Real channel, real person, real continuity.
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And for the moments you want to keep the work going on your own, your welcome box includes Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin? card deck. One question, one quiet evening, one conversation neither of you would have started on your own. Use them when you want to find your way back to each other between sessions.
THE INVESTMENT
ONE PROGRAM. ONE PRICE. EVERYTHING INCLUDED.
No add-ons. No surprise charges. No quiet upsells.
The number you see is the number you pay, and it covers the full twelve sessions and everything that comes with them.
The Full Program
$3,000
Three months.Both of you.
Every session, every book, every tool.
Paid once, never again.
EVERYTHING INCLUDED
Twelve full sessions across the three stages of the program
Two individual sessions, one with each of you, woven into stage one​
Direct access to Dr. O'Malley for every session, every individual meeting, and every message between sessions. Never handed off to an associate or supervisee.
Two copies of every book in the program: Hold Me Tight, Mating in Captivity, and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
The complete RECONNECT welcome box, handed to you in person at your first session
Two copies of every book in the program: Hold Me Tight, Mating in Captivity, and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin? card deck for the work between sessions​​
Proprietary KSD packets (Knowledge, Skills, and Dispositions) mapped to each session and to your reading, designed to turn the work in the room into the work in your week
The Relational Review, a daily five-step relational practice you both learn in session two and carry with you long after the program ends
Secure between-session messaging through your client portal, one business day response time
Measurement-based care with private assessments at the start, midpoint, and end of the program
A formal completion ritual at session twelve, including a written record of your work together
Fully private pay. No insurance billing, no diagnostic codes, no records sent to anyone. What happens between us stays between us.
Free. 20 minutes. No pressure. Just a conversation.
You have spent more on things that mattered less. This one changes how the two of you live together for the rest of your lives.
Frequently Asked Questions
About RECONNECT Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy in Golden, Colorado:
Everything You Need to Know Before You Book
What is RECONNECT and how is it different from regular couples therapy in Colorado?
​RECONNECT is a twelve-session premium couples therapy program in Golden, Colorado, built on Emotionally Focused Therapy and created by Dr. John O'Malley, PhD, LPC, NCC, for high-achieving couples who want a defined start, middle, and end instead of open-ended weekly sessions. Most couples counseling has no map, no measurement, and no finish line. RECONNECT does. You move through all nine EFT steps across three clinical stages over three months, with measurement-based care at baseline, midpoint, and completion, three included books, proprietary learning packets, between-session support, and a structured completion ritual. It is the entire arc of couples therapy, delivered as one complete program for one price.
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How much does couples therapy cost in the Denver metro area, and what does RECONNECT cost?
RECONNECT is $3,000 for the complete twelve-session program, which works out to $250 per session. That is in line with what most experienced couples therapists across the Denver metro area charge for a single fifty-minute hour, and RECONNECT includes the books, the learning materials, the welcome box, the daily practice tools, the secure between-session messaging, the measurement, and the completion ritual at no additional cost. You pay one time. You receive three months of guided work and twelve months of held pricing if you ever choose to return.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy, and why is it the foundation of RECONNECT?
Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT, is the most research-validated approach to couples therapy in the world, with more than thirty years of outcome studies showing that roughly seventy percent of couples move from distress to lasting recovery. EFT was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and is based on attachment science, which is the same body of research that explains why humans need each other to feel safe, calm, and seen. Dr. John O'Malley uses EFT as the clinical spine of RECONNECT because no other model has the evidence base, the structure, or the depth to do what high-achieving couples actually want, which is to stop the cycle and feel close again.
We are not in crisis. We are just stuck. Is RECONNECT still right for us?
Yes, and you are exactly the couple this program was built for. RECONNECT is designed for committed couples who are not on the verge of divorce but who feel further apart than they used to, who keep having the same hard conversation in different clothes, and who are ready to bring the same standard of care to their relationship that they bring to everything else in their lives. You do not need to be in crisis to deserve excellent care. Most of the couples in RECONNECT come in successful, capable, and quietly exhausted. They leave with a relationship that finally feels like a place to rest.
We are both extremely busy professionals. Can we really finish a twelve-session couples therapy program in three months?
​Yes, and the structure is built for exactly that. RECONNECT meets weekly for fifty minutes at the same time each week, available in person at the Golden, Colorado office or via secure telehealth anywhere in the state of Colorado, so it lives on your calendar like any other standing commitment. The reading is paced at one chapter between sessions. The daily Relational Review practice takes five minutes. The couples in this program are surgeons, attorneys, executives, founders, and engineers, and the calendar is the easiest part of the work once it is set.
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We have tried couples counseling before and it did not help. Why would RECONNECT be different?
​Most couples counseling is open-ended, unstructured, and built around talking about the past week. RECONNECT is the opposite. It is twelve sessions, mapped to a clinical model with three decades of outcome research, with a defined beginning, a clinical pivot in the middle where Dr. O'Malley meets with each partner individually, and a real ending. Progress is measured in real time using Blueprint Health, so you are not guessing whether the work is landing. You can see it on the page. If past therapy felt like sitting in a room hoping something would shift, this will feel like the exact opposite of that.
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Is RECONNECT covered by insurance, and how private is it?
​RECONNECT is fully private pay. There is no insurance billing, no diagnostic code assigned to either partner, no records sent to any third party, and no paper trail outside the room. For the physicians, attorneys, executives, and public-facing professionals who choose this program, that level of confidentiality is often the reason they chose it in the first place. Dr. John O'Malley is a Licensed Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor practicing in Colorado, bound by the strictest confidentiality standards in the field. What happens between the three of you stays between the three of you.
Do we have to talk about sex and intimacy in couples therapy?
​Yes, and intimacy is part of the conversation from session one in RECONNECT, not buried in a later module. Most couples who arrive stuck are also stuck around desire and intimacy, and pretending otherwise wastes the work. Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity is one of the three included books for this exact reason, alongside Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight and John Gottman's The Seven Principles. You will talk about sex and desire the way two adults talk about anything that matters, with a clinician who knows how to hold the conversation without making either of you feel exposed.
What actually happens on the free twenty-minute consultation call?
​The consultation is a real conversation with Dr. John O'Malley, not an intake form, not a coordinator, and not a sales pitch. You will share what is bringing you in, he will ask a few honest questions, and you will both get a clear sense of whether RECONNECT is the right fit for the two of you right now. If it is, you will know how to take the next step. If it is not, he will tell you, and he will point you toward what is. The couples who book the call usually say the same thing afterward: they knew within the first five minutes.
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What happens if we miss a session, and what kind of support do we get between sessions?
Life happens. Surgeries run long, kids get sick, flights get delayed. RECONNECT reschedules within the same week whenever possible and flexes around real life without losing the clinical arc. Between sessions, both partners have secure messaging access to Dr. O'Malley through Simple Practice, with a one business day response Monday through Friday and up to two contacts per week. You are never three months alone with the work. The structure carries you, and so does Dr. O'Malley.